How to boost your self-worth for autonomy and change

Intact, empowered people are the ultimate vehicles for change.

Self worth is one of the most important things we need to not only survive, but to thrive. This is as we need a sense of self in order to be able to navigate life's ups and downs; to ultimately Rise to meet ourselves, and who we came here to be.

We are a part of Nature, and so we need to be able to trust ourselves and internal navigation systems to find the path that is most aligned to our values, and our core. Otherwise, we will be easily swayed, overpowered and taken advantage of. When we are lacking self-worth we seek value externally, be it from other people, experiences or even substances such as food, alcohol, binging, you name it. When we are in this state we are literally allowing our anchorage to be in something else or someone else, this inevitably creates destruction to both the other and ourselves. The destruction occurs as another person simply cannot hold this much space for you for this length of time, as this is not how we are supposed to live to feel vibrant, capable and empowered.

To be clear this is not about becoming isolated and separated but rather to return to wholeness and liberation within so that you can experience another/life in the most full, beautiful, intimate and magical way - to one of union instead of dependence and reliance. we can see how this dependence is a thread that inevitably keeps society in patterns that are not only destructive to the self, but to all. Dependence is neediness; a way of being that relies and does not feel intact, empowered, capable and whole., we can see how this correlates to consumerism, capitalism, religion and colonisation. When we know our worth, have intact value systems such as Nature protection and human wellbeing we become an unstoppable force for a system built on corruption and extraction, as we can no longer be extracted from.

A return to wholeness: Becoming intact again

Interdependence however is another ballgame and one that breeds vitality, oneness and strength between all. Envision a thriving ecosystem, now envision it in your community, family unit and even your body. Relationships are meant to teach us, yes, but also to expand and embellish our human experience. Connection and intimacy are some of the most exhilarating and wonderful things our hearts and spirits can know, they also create a flourishing ecosystem that becomes well and self sufficient instead of being dependent (often unknowingly) on the system. A simple example of this was revealed through the pandemic to show where our systems cannot sustain the level of reliance they have created, as well as how much people are lacking health and body sovereignty often unknowingly. To feel empowered we need to feel capable in all areas of our lives from our bodies to health to wellbeing to lifestyle. If we are lacking in any areas of foundation, we can be sure it will be shaken up to teach us to come back to wholeness.

Life experience and relationships teach us and give us reflections of where we are reliant or seeking externally. So many of us fall into self-destruct when being intimate whether with Life or another person as this is where the wounds emerge. Allow these experiences to become your teacher, don't get bogged down in the pain or the shame, use it to transform the emptiness revealed so that it can be transmuted and turned to gold.

• Know that its okay for your stuff to come up, see it as a reflection of the areas you are desiring to return to wholeness an learn in this lifetime.

• Observe and discern any areas that you speak down on yourself internally or externally and get to the bottom of it. This serves no one, and is annihilating to your self-worth and sense of self.

• Do things that make you feel good in your body, learn how to treat yourself best, so that when in relationship / in Life you have a standard and baseline that does not allow for anything less. Exercise, meditate, eat well, work with herbs and supplements, self-massage, dance, self-pleasure..... find the things that fill you up and keep returning to them.

• Try new things and find the areas of your life that really light you up.

• Set boundaries, journal and reflect on situations so that you can learn, evolve and grow.

Keep an open heart

This is incredibly important as though we want to maintain value and worth within, we also don't want to veer off the edge to the other side of the scale to the point of coldness, numbness, shutting out, harshness and not letting others in.

How can you get to a place where you trust yourself enough to have your heart wide open? Knowing that you will have your back if and when needed. Keeping the heart open brings life's full experience into our circumference so that we can live a life of fullness, of the beauty of what it means to be a feeling, loving, raw human.

Le Grá/With Love,

Liv.

If you'd like to work one to one on this subject you can take a look at the sessions and mentorship section here. We all deserve to live our lives to the full, to embody our dreams and step into power. This, in my view is the ultimate form of activism as it liberates us from all self doubt, worry and neediness that keep us small and feeling insignificant. The more empowered, embodied people with intact value systems, the more we will see change, beauty and a return to liberation collectively.